It takes a village… {Jasmine starts nursery}

Do you know what’s funny? Every time I’ve attempted to write this blog post, I’ve immediately started trying to justify my decision to send Jasmine to nursery.  A decision that doesn’t effect anybody else but her, me and her dad. And yet, I feel somewhat defensive about it, like I should have to explain myself to everybody.

Perhaps part of the reason for my defensiveness is that I feel a tad guilty about it. Because that’s what us mums do, isn’t it? We make decisions for our children, in the hope that they are in their best interests, and then proceed to feel guilty about them. Regardless of the outcome.

Tomorrow Jasmine starts nursery. She’ll be going for two mornings a week for the foreseeable future. I’m both incredibly excited for her, and extremely nervous. I know she’ll be fine – she’s never been particularly phased by new faces and places. But it’s still going to be a big adjustment for us both.

However, I think it’s really important for Jasmine to get that social interaction. Living away from our family and friends means that she doesn’t spend time with other children and adults very often. Aside from the odd toddler group now and again, it’s just me and her 24 hours a day. I don’t think that’s particularly healthy for either of us. There’s an African proverb that I strongly agree with: “It takes a village to raise a child”. I think nursery is going to be as close as we get to a ‘village’ until we’re in a position where we can move closer to our families.

Not only will her time at nursery be beneficial for Jasmine, but also for me. Hence the ‘mum guilt’ I suppose. I’m looking forward to having a few hours a week to myself to do other things besides being ‘just be a mum’. Because lately, that’s what I’ve felt like – ‘just a mum’, as if there are no other parts of my personality. I’ve forgotten who I am and what other things I enjoy doing. I’ve become of  ‘Mumbot’, an automaton who wakes up – changes nappies, makes food, does washing, cleans the house and then goes to bed at night to do all it over again the next day. I’m looking forward to mixing things up a bit.

And would you look at that! Despite my best efforts I still ended up trying to justify my decision to the internet. It was bound to happen, wasn’t it?

I’m off to pack up Jasmine’s little rucksack for her big day tomorrow.

And, when the inevitable guilt creeps in, I’ll repeat over and over “It takes a village… It takes a village…”


Jasmine’s beautiful, personalised ‘ditsy print’ rucksack was kindly sent to us by the lovely folk at My1stYears. It will be perfect for taking her belongings to nursery, is small enough for her to carry herself (which she loves to do) and has adjustable straps. As well as the zipped main compartment of the rucksack, there is also a front zipped pocket too – ideal for carrying around Bunny! The text can be personalised in a range of different colours. It’s such a gorgeous little bag. The only downside? It makes her look so grown up! *sob*


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  1. Avatar September 14, 2015 / 6:45 pm

    I love you so much you know that? This is the loveliest post. She will be totally fine and it will do her the world of good! xxx

    • Jenna September 14, 2015 / 7:30 pm

      Aw, shucks. :)

      Thank you Katy, I know you’re right. xx

  2. Avatar September 14, 2015 / 8:27 pm

    We always feel like we have to justify our ‘mum’ decisions to others when really it’s just your family it matters too.

    I totally understand your reasoning for sending Jasmine to nursery… I’m actually going to be sending our son to nursery before the regular age just for the social interaction. I’m not doing it until he’s potty trained though, so not immediate future. The only reason I’m leaving it until then though is because change time is an absolute battle and I don’t want to put that situation on someone else. I know that sounds like a silly reason, but battle is an understatement, honestly.

    I think nursery will be good for both you and Jasmine.

    • Jenna September 14, 2015 / 9:06 pm

      No, it’s not a silly reason at all, if the thought of it bothers you then you would not be happy or comfortable with him being there. The time isn’t right until you decide it is. :) Jasmine was a nightmare with nappy changes for a while but she has calmed down a lot lately – she still runs in the other direction when I get her changing stuff out though! x

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    September 15, 2015 / 10:25 am

    Such a beautiful bag – I love the print! I know what you mean about feeling guilty about Jasmine going to nursery, we’re currently looking around at the options and I just feel so guilty. Despite it being months off yet. Hate to think what I’ll be like nearer the time, but like you say it’s important for their social interaction skills :) #TriedTested

    Helen x

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 3:13 pm

      It is gorgeous, isn’t it? Chuffed to bits with it and Jasmine looks so sweet wearing it.
      I’m glad you can relate to the ‘mum guilt’ – at the moment I’m wondering when/if I will stop feeling it. She got on really well today and seemed to enjoy herself and I STILL feel guilty. It’s ridiculous! x

  4. Avatar September 15, 2015 / 11:10 am

    EXACTLY how I felt. I felt uber guilty about them going two mornings a week. And do you know what? They loved it, so did I, and it makes our week so much happier, more interesting and varied. She will be great and so will you. I think you speak for a lot of people with this post. Jess xxx

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 3:15 pm

      Glad it’s not just me then!
      You are so right, it really will make our weeks happier. I’m looking forward to having a bit more of a routine. xx

  5. Avatar September 15, 2015 / 12:25 pm

    Aww! That is just adorable! I hope she has settled in well at nursery x

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 3:15 pm

      Thank you, Kim – she did really well today. I am so proud of her. x

  6. Avatar September 15, 2015 / 3:32 pm

    Wow! Such a beautiful bag.
    I have to write on my girls’ bags for school which is a pain as it ruins them. I think I should start looking into personalised bags and this bag looks perfect size for little people. Lovely design x

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 9:06 pm

      It really is gorgeous – I wouldn’t mind one for myself! ;)

      Jasmine loves wearing it out and about. xx

  7. Avatar September 15, 2015 / 4:43 pm

    I wouldn’t give it another thought! My son loves it at his childminder and he has come on leaps and bounds from being with older kids. So much so that one of the other mums that I know is sending her son there on days she could have him at home. No guilt required, but if you still feel it then a glass of wine or two helps ? . Found you at #twinklytuesdays

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 9:08 pm

      Heh, thanks hun that makes me feel better.

      Jasmine doesn’t NEED to go to nursery, but I think it will be good for us both.

      I just need to stop feeling so bad about it, it’s pointless. xx

  8. Avatar September 15, 2015 / 7:29 pm

    Wow what a gorgeous rucksack! Sienna would absolutely love this! xx

    • Jenna September 15, 2015 / 9:08 pm

      It really is lovely. I could so see Sienna with one. :) xx

  9. Avatar September 16, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    What a gorgeous bag, Finn has a hideous spiderman one…! I hope Jasmine settles well and that you enjoy some much needed “me” time! Just don’t spend the whole time cleaning / ironing / cooking etc!

    • Jenna September 16, 2015 / 9:10 pm

      Haha – oh no, not Spiderman! Blurgh. ;)

      Thanks so much, Amy. I keep writing lists of ‘things to do’ whilst she’s at nursery – including such delights as ‘clear out kitchen cupboards’ and ‘deep clean the bathroom’ – think I may be missing the point! ;) xx

  10. Avatar September 16, 2015 / 8:50 pm

    I hope her first day went well :) I love the proverb that will stick we me too. Lovely rucksack very cute. x #kidscorner

    • Jenna September 16, 2015 / 9:05 pm

      It went really well thanks – second taster tomorrow, fingers crossed that goes well too. :)

      The bag has had a few compliments at nursery already – seems to be a hit! xx

  11. Avatar September 17, 2015 / 6:42 am

    I love that saying – It takes a Village to raise a child. Totally agree, but you’re right whatever we do as Mums we always feel twinges of guilt. Gorgeous bag too.

    • Jenna September 17, 2015 / 9:58 am

      Yep, the moment you become a mum – you just can’t win. I think I’ve felt guilty about something or other every day for the last 17 months! x

  12. Avatar September 17, 2015 / 8:35 pm

    As a stay at home mum I always feel I have to justify Bubs going to preschool and I feel incredibly guilty too. But I reconcile that guilt against knowing that Bubs needs more stimulation than I have the energy for. Feeling guilty is what we mums do, but we also make the best possible decisions for our children.

    I hope that Jasmine had a lovely first day at preschool and that you didn’t guilt-trip yourself too much!

    • Jenna September 17, 2015 / 9:39 pm

      Exactly, you are giving Bubs the opportunity to get that stimulation and that’s the best thing you could do for her. No guilt required. :)

      Thank you, Vickie. She had a brilliant time at her settling in sessions and now I’m even more sure that she’s going to really love it there. xx

  13. Avatar September 25, 2015 / 10:05 am

    Ah she’s a big girl now, with a beautiful rucksack to boot! How did her first sessions go? Hope she had fun and you had some quality ‘me’ time, you deserve it! Xx

    • Jenna September 25, 2015 / 2:24 pm

      They went really well thanks, Heledd. She seems to be really enjoying. :)

      I end up cleaning the whole time but hopefully I’ll learn to cram a bit of ‘me time’ in there too. xx

  14. Avatar September 26, 2015 / 8:23 am

    Ah there is nothing to feel guilty about – me time is so so important! A happy mummy means a happy Jasmine, and she’ll love being at nursery. I find spending a bit of time away from Arlo makes our time together so much more special too. Hope you’ve had some good time to yourself :) xx

    • Jenna September 26, 2015 / 9:53 pm

      Thank you, Poppy. :) You are absolutely right – it does make both of us happier. I definitely appreciate our time together more now, too. xx

  15. Avatar September 28, 2015 / 8:46 pm

    I hope Jasmine is thriving at nursery Jenna, and you’re well over feeling guilty now as you see what a difference it has made to her…and you. I love that proverb. Jess x

    • Jenna September 29, 2015 / 1:56 pm

      Thank you Jess – she seems to have taken to nursery really well. I definitely feel a lot less guilty now that I’ve seen how much fun she’s having there. x

  16. Avatar October 20, 2015 / 9:58 pm

    Oh honey, I am so sorry that I am really late reading this. How is Jasmine doing? Please don’t feel guilty about sending Jasmine to nursery. It sounds like you are doing the right thing for both you and Jasmine. You don’t have to justify this decision to anyone. I love that rucksack. It is gorgeous. And I bet she looks so cute but very grown up when carrying it. Bless her! And thank heavens that it has room for Bunny. That is hugely important. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Jenna October 22, 2015 / 9:35 am

      Thank you, Lucy. She’s doing really well – she has a few clingy moments when we drop her off but once she’s there she has an absolute blast. It’s given me that bit of breathing space and has made our weeks much happier, on the whole. Now that I know she’s doing fine, I don’t feel so guilty – I know it was the right decision for both of us. She does look very grown up when she is wearing the rucksack! *sob* xxxx

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